The Dangers of Outsourcing and Trust

At some point, you will meet a person whom you will trust implicitly and completely. The reason why is because you can rely on this other person to help you shoulder your emotional burdens.

This is nothing more than outsourcing your biggest pain point to an excellent vendor. In a perfect world, this vendor would be at your beck and call 24/7 and he will solve all your issues and you will finally sleep well at night, knowing that your baby is going to be okay.

This feeling is extremely gratifying and is absolutely normal. After all, you have met someone who understood you so completely, that you don’t feel alone anymore.

You then offload everything you can to this amazing provider and next thing you know, your critical processes are also handled by them. The only problem at this point is that all it takes is just one instance where your vendor has to go to the loo for a big one (and is therefore unable to accept your feverish phone calls) while a crisis is happening and the whole damned thing will come down. On a logical level, you know he has done nothing to betray your trust, and yet…

This can also be taken as an allegory for personal relationships as well, if you haven’t joined the dots yet.

And so here’s a word of caution: trust is a beautiful thing. It’s also like a glass bridge. Try not to stress it out too quickly and despite what the rom-coms say, you might want to keep most of your burdens to yourself. Lest you forget how to deal with them.


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Hankit Mok

I live to tell stories. Sometimes, I get paid for them.

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